HOW TO DISCOVER WHAT YOU REALLY WANT

The small word “WANT” carries a different meaning for each one of us. Our desire for what we want makes each one of us different from others. But do we know or understand what exactly we want? Or have we ever thought about what this word means to us? Many of you will say ‘Yes, like at the beginning If you ask a young child what he/she wants, they will tell you exactly what they need or want whether it’s a toy, chocolate or playing with friends. He/ she will declare it and they hate to hear a ‘No’ in response to it. Moving further reaching the period of adolescence everything for us and around us seems to have changed. We start to receive tremendous interference from our authority figures who in one or the other way try to it impose their thoughts and decisions on us and want us to look from their perspective regarding how should we think, behave and feel, who shame us for wanting what we want. They teach us that we should alter our desire so that we fit in, don’t get hurt or alienate our tribes. Then finally we reach the more crucial stage of our life that is ‘adulthood’. Finally, our ability to perceive what we want gets more muddled in adulthood when lots of competing demands make a mess of our desire. Understanding all this we will now try to find the answer to our question which was “figuring out what we want”. Some key steps could help us connect to our life’s purpose, getting out of fear, and tap into what we want out of life.              

      STEP 1 FOLLOW YOUR FREEDOM

Each one of us has different notions, opinions,s, and thoughts about the idea of freedom. The fact that everyone wants to be free is true in every case. Freedom is an inmate's choice of deciding and doing what we want, to live where we want, dress up the way we like, to eat by choice,e and to learn what our heart desire. There are three important connotations that freedom carries and ie, the notion of choice, the absence of constraints to make and exercise such a choice, and existence conditions that enable us to actuate the choice. One important point to understand is that freedom doesn’t come with independence. There is no waste of life if you are happy living it the way you want. Take a few minutes and think about what makes you happy since happiness is the root of your desire. Don’t feel bad for being selfish until and unless you doing any harm to others, after all,l it’s your life, and the life the way exactly you want it t. Never dwell upon your past. Don’t ever let your past hamper your present. Focus on your present and future. 

    

          STEP 2  DO A SELF AUDIT 

 

Ask yourself ‘what do you know that you wish you didn’t know?’Maybe some of you know that you are hiding from the truth. Deep down you know that you are hiding from the truth. Maybe you know something is wrong with your health but you are scared to see a doctor because you fear hearing the diagnosis. Maybe, you know that what you are doing is not your definition of happiness, satisfaction, and fulfillment of your wants but you are scared to admit it because you fear getting judged. Whatever it, tap into what’s deeply right for you, perceiving things as they are, not worse than the, not better than they are, but as they are. So, to figure out what it is, you need to see the truth where you are, and what you are. Be brave enough to find the life you want and courageous enough to choose i. 

       STEP 3 FACE YOUR FEARS AND ENGAGE IN ACTIONS TO                                ACCOMPLISH YOUR GOALS 

   

It is one of the most important and bold steps for every one of us. Fear is something that always restricts us from doing what we want. It could be fear of embarrassment, fear of what others will think of u, fear of getting judged and criticize, failure, of not having what it take, fearing of losing everything, and so on ….    To conquer your fear you must have to think and analyses who taught you to fear this way? Was it your parents who told you that you are not capable enough to do what you wanted t ? or was it your teacher who made you accept that you are not smart enough to face something which is not your cup of tea ? or was it any traumatic or horrible experience that forced you to think down and you stop fighting for what you didn't? Whatever the root cause, there was a powerful and positive lesson you were meant to learn. You are smart, intelligent,t and capable enough to create opportunities and prove yourself. In the I would like to conclude that life doesn’t always go the way you want i. Don’t feel lost or sad rather take control of i. Instead of freaking out, try your best to roll with change. Stay positive. Try to find the 'blessing in disguise. Don’t try to be a perfectionist instead try to be realistic and face the reality with confidence. Sometimes positive attitude is all you need to keep going